Ways of preventing and addressing child stealing
Socio-economic instability of modern society exacerbates a number of problems of education of children. When faced with child stealing, many parents and teachers are experiencing a complex range of negative emotions: anger, shame, fear for the future of the child, a sense of helplessness. The causes of this phenomenon are often hidden, making it difficult to find the right pedagogical response to the act of the child.
Theft – this is criminal misappropriation and stealing someone else’s property, contrary to the law of morality and ethics.
Child theft is a frequent phenomenon, but carefully concealed as alcoholism and other “shameful” family secrets. In the minds of most adults firmly soldered two mythologies: the child is an innocent angel, and stealing – a sign of the criminal world. When a child is caught stealing, the parents usually feel completely confused. Experts believe that the only correct response to the theft does not exist – it depends on the reasons why a child steals.
Researchers identify social and psychological causes of child stealing. To social causes are primarily problems of low-income families. Sometimes the child begins to steal from “class” considerations, envying those who are better off children and seeking revenge “rich”. Often steal children, parents or caregivers are convinced that they know better, “which in reality he needs” and without good cause refused to buy things that meet the underlying needs of the child. Stealing out of desperation arises, if the child extort money by threats or he suffers from drug addiction.
Psychological causes of child stealing is very diverse. Knowledge of and ability to identify the factors of children’s behavior in a particular case largely determines the effectiveness of the pedagogical action.
The impact of advertising on children. Experts noted a direct link between exposure to aggressive advertising and the rise of thefts of the advertised product. The attractiveness and availability of goods in supermarkets . There are precipitating factors: advertising goods, beauty checkout space, candy in bulk by weight. Stealing from interest and compensation for stress . The adrenaline rush after a theft is fixed in the subconscious, and as a result, the theft becomes dangerous and intractable habit. Vague rules concerning foreign ownership in the family. Immature concepts such as “integrity”, “your”, “alien”. Things brothers and sisters, parents and the child are freely available to others without the owner’s permission. The lack of attention. Sometimes a child by stealing tries to attract the attention of parents to force them to unite to solve the problems of the child and, thereby, to distract them from thinking about the divorce. Psychologist E. K. Davydova conducted research in families of child-stealing. It turned out what it’s insecure, vulnerable children, how they need the emotional support and acceptance from his family. Revenge: peers, brothers and sisters, parents . Theft may be a signal to parents: if you don’t change your under maintenance, I will not allow you to pretend to others that you are good. Kleptomania . This pathological impulsive-emerging desire to theft with an irresistible need satisfaction. Kleptomania is manifested compulsive stealing, and people not stealing for the sake of values, but for the sake of the process. M. I. Buyanov considers kleptomania as a form of violation of libido. In addition, he speaks about the existence of a “predisposition to theft” (at the genetic level). Theft-an adventure for a bored child. In this case, the child finds it difficult to find an area to samovyrajeniya, often linked to a severe limitation of his initiative. Forgetfulness and distraction . Children may simply forget to return the thing to the owner or to pay for it. Sincere and good-natured child, characterized by confusion, in this case, it may be unjustly accused of malice.
If you suspect your child of stealing, psychologists recommend the following:
Stop the theft is possible only if your confidence in the facts. Remember that unjust accusation can cause baby great psychological trauma. First of all, remember that your child is not a recidivist thief and hastened to punish him, you deprive him of self-confidence. Cruel or humiliating punishment brutalizes children and creates a sense of his own malice. Explain to your child what feelings he causes to the man from whom he steals. Remember, theft – this is not an innate quality, but the consequence of your mistakes in the upbringing. Do not discuss the negative actions of their child in the presence of strangers. Try to understand what the cause of the theft. Perhaps related to this is kind of an important issue. For example, a child who is demanding the repayment of a debt. Divide the child responsibility and help to withdraw from the labour Noah situation. Do not return to the discussion of theft after a while, after, as the situation has already been analyzed and experienced. Do not provoke children to steal. Money, valuables should not be placed in a prominent place. Clearly condemn a specific act, not the identity of the child.
According to psychologists, the best prevention of child stealing, – a trusting relationship with the child. Often discuss with children their problems, share your experiences. The child or young person will feel your confidence, a sincere desire to understand it. Remember that many situations can seem tragic and hopeless, so he really needs emotional support from adults.