Teach your son to put into words what he feels. The kid can scream in frustration, to hide from embarrassment, biting excitement and crying from fear. Explain to him that it is emotions that tell the body how to behave. Show him other people who feel the same, but Express their emotions differently. Talk with your child about your own emotions. When he one day will grow, you will know the difference between rage and embarrassment, disappointment and grief, and learn to cope with their emotions and Express them intelligently, without shame and without guilt.
Papa will teach him the most important things. If you let dad be immersed in the process of raising a child from the very beginning, ever the son formed the correct opinion: his dad knows EVERYTHING. You will always be loved by his mother, but daddy for boy is a special man who knows the answers to all the questions.Make it so that the boy talked more in men’s element! If he had little contact with his father, he goes to training or in groups where the teacher is male.
Read to him and with him. Children become readers on the lap of their parents. The child needs to see that you also read. Tell him about what you read. About their favorite books and characters. Explain to him why it is so important to read books. And read together and then Continue reading
Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.
“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.
In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.
Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. Continue reading
Every man is a transitional being, which every act or work out psychological problems of their parents, or passes them on to their children. Moreover, it should be understood that the speech in this case goes about the transfer of subconscious programs that the parents themselves determine the age of which a person has no conscious memories. Most people don’t notice it happening, so one German writer has called this process a secret Treaty generations. Parents have no idea how authoritative for the child at an early age by their words and actions. The child in his judgment about the world that possesses a critical mind, so all he has to say about the world, becomes a truth, which he takes in the system of his beliefs and can take through life. But what seems true parents, lived all his life in poverty is likely to be severely limit someone who wants to become rich. In childhood, we often find ourselves in situations where we feel powerless against the mighty giants – parents; therefore, at the age of three, apparent harmless, methods of education, as the control, regulation, criticisms and censure,are for a child is very significant. And coercion, deprivation of autonomy, manipulation through guilt and shame are far-reaching.
Is there a parent who did not abuse their power against a child?
How often do children hear: “No!”, “Don’t touch!”, “Don’t walk”. This is due, undoubtedly, to the safety of the child, but the bans from the necessary security tool has become a tool of manipulation for a more comfortable status of the parents. Much easier to shout ‘ Stop!’ sitting in a chair than to stand up and help overcome the child a dangerous obstacle. Easier to shout “don’t touch!”, than to come and spend efforts on the introduction of the child with an interesting object, such as scissors. Psychologists estimate that the average family child daily and gets 460 is negative, critical or limiting comments, and only 75 positive and approving. Soon the growing human body produces the reflex of uncertainty in their relations with the surrounding world. Continue reading