Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.
Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?
In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading
When I only have a second daughter was born, the world just turned upside down. I didn’t know where to go, what to grab and how to manage everything. On hand were two screaming little kids (daughters the difference is 1.5 years old): one is a control freak, second, one’s teeth, the second my tummy hurts… she is not getting enough sleep, all superimposed, chores to do once. And against this background I started to get annoyed, to fall on the husband yelling at his elder daughter.
All this I endured two months. Then I realized, what I did was wrong and started to look for information, how to live with two small children. And came across the flylady forum where I found the first principle, which I loved, helped me overcome that period and learned a lot.
So, the first principle . Not done and can do . Now I never plan on spring cleaning for a few hours. If I have 10-15 minutes free, then I just take, for example, my floors. Or have 5 minutes – I’ll wash the kitchen sink.
As a result, I don’t have to force yourself. Imagine: it’s one thing when you have three hours to clean the house, do absolutely not want to. And quite another when between, just to switch from one activity to another. Fifteen minutes Continue reading