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Unconditional love?

i“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.

My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.

Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading

OUR FAVORITE KIDS

 

Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.

Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?

In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading

The Culture of behavior in children

 

Culture is a broad concept that reveals the essence of moral standards in relation to people, to nature, to work, to objects of material and spiritual culture and, of course, to himself.

The child is forced to learn a number of rules that are necessary for life in society. These rules are readily available to the child and gradually absorbed them in the process of communicating with other people in your child’s daily routine and become, over time, habits of behavior and skills. Not for nothing they say ” Sow a habit – reap a character “.

Parents and teachers should be aware of some peculiarities of pre-school age:

– Lack of skills and habits

– The inaccuracy of performance of rules of conduct

– Insufficient awareness of their actions

– Heritance

Foster a culture of behavior in children is needed with respect to adults . Children see that their parents care about them and will try to respond in kind, willingly fulfilling their requests, obeying them, will seek to please their actions.

The child needs to be able to support emotionally positive tone of communication with others, to use the words of courtesy. Let the child tries to behave so as not to disturb others and does not interrupt adult conversation, Continue reading

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