“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.
My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.
Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading
Your newborn baby is crying – you pick him up. He is hungry – you feed him. He has a wet diaper – you change. You will certainly meet his every need. To care for the baby and so very difficult, and of course, nurture your baby too early, right? But soon the child becomes wiser, and his needs are transformed into desires, and you understand that it would not hurt to set some boundaries.
How many times per day you patiently pick up from the floor and thrown a pacifier, a toy or an overturned bowl of porridge?
We know what you’re thinking: 1 or 2 years ’ s too early to punish the child. That kind of attitude is a stumbling block. Because education – this is not the only punishment. This training and instruction, which can and should start from an early age.
Limitations – an important part of your parental duty. You help the child understand what is good and what is bad, follow the rules and deal with disappointments. Of course, we all know that a child who is “bad behavior”, do not do this on purpose. When the child breaks your points, he’s only doing what instinct tells him ” explores the outside world. Continue reading
Discussion of games, toys, techniques, devoted several posts, even attached. But there is no discussion of computer games.
The son of a few months playing at the computer. Initially, the games were held my rigid censorship, then it was an omission, when it played in everything, himself, now, again, censorship is installed.
I thought, and this was confirmed by later observations, some games do more good than harm, of course, on the precondition that the computer is not a substitute for everyday leisure, festivals, games with their parents.
In my opinion, a computer game is a wonderful addition to our life (at home) when the child has the urge to act . but there is no opportunity to repeat the activity of the parent (e.g., mother sews on the sewing machine). The parent has no time clock to take the child with interesting games and tasks that call for perseverance, and interesting, for self-employment to the child of early age – very few (I almost never find them).
I tried to make a rough selection criteria games.
1. The complete absence of “nervousness” – all sorts of shouts, screams, the inadequate response of the characters Continue reading