“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.
My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.
Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading
Discussion of games, toys, techniques, devoted several posts, even attached. But there is no discussion of computer games.
The son of a few months playing at the computer. Initially, the games were held my rigid censorship, then it was an omission, when it played in everything, himself, now, again, censorship is installed.
I thought, and this was confirmed by later observations, some games do more good than harm, of course, on the precondition that the computer is not a substitute for everyday leisure, festivals, games with their parents.
In my opinion, a computer game is a wonderful addition to our life (at home) when the child has the urge to act . but there is no opportunity to repeat the activity of the parent (e.g., mother sews on the sewing machine). The parent has no time clock to take the child with interesting games and tasks that call for perseverance, and interesting, for self-employment to the child of early age – very few (I almost never find them).
I tried to make a rough selection criteria games.
1. The complete absence of “nervousness” – all sorts of shouts, screams, the inadequate response of the characters Continue reading
Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.
Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?
In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading