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Unconditional love?

i“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.

My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.

Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading

What to do when your child lies

If it’s not quite a child who is not very difference between truth and own fiction, we should seriously enough to treat the manifestations of lies and figure out its cause. Usually, the main reason for this behavior is the elementary fear of imminent punishment, the desire to attract attention to themselves or the fear not to live up to parental expectations.

This is of course all right, but the most unpleasant and proven way – blowout. They need to bring on the ship (if you swim) and the road (if the road).

Think maybe you are bringing to your child is a very excessive demands, who, because of their age or development, simply can not meet. A fear of losing in this regard, your affection causes him to lie, exaggerating his achievements and “forgetting” about those offenses that have been committed.

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Why lie to us?

They not enough time to use formal language, collocations like “this company”, “the man”. Professional investigators always require detainees to tell the story from the end to reveal, cheating man in this Continue reading

How to motivate dad to school with your child?

Here I read a lot of different newsletters, publications, magazines on the subject of child development and healthy parenting. Everywhere a lot of information for moms. Here mom, these are great, have learned to catch everything, and a time plan, and children develop, develop themselves, etc. are All fine, but where’s the Pope? Okay, most dads – work and family, so mom could have a child/children. But they too must take part in the upbringing and development of children. Clearly, every family has their views on it and their own rules. Yes, and to work with dad-to-date prices should be very much… still, back to the main – dad needs to take part in the development of the child from birth.

The second question is how the Pope to this motivation, if he is afraid or does not want, or excuses all the time? I believe that such strong family simply can not be – adult conscious person understands that a child needs both parents equally. And find the time to half an hour a day a child to read or to Tinker with the toy, or to go for a walk is not a problem.

What to do if the Pope understands, agrees with this opinion, but still shirk their responsibilities? Start small – for example: Continue reading

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