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Unconditional love?

i“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.

My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.

Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading

If You have a growing SON

Teach your son to put into words what he feels. The kid can scream in frustration, to hide from embarrassment, biting excitement and crying from fear. Explain to him that it is emotions that tell the body how to behave. Show him other people who feel the same, but Express their emotions differently. Talk with your child about your own emotions. When he one day will grow, you will know the difference between rage and embarrassment, disappointment and grief, and learn to cope with their emotions and Express them intelligently, without shame and without guilt.

Papa will teach him the most important things. If you let dad be immersed in the process of raising a child from the very beginning, ever the son formed the correct opinion: his dad knows EVERYTHING. You will always be loved by his mother, but daddy for boy is a special man who knows the answers to all the questions.Make it so that the boy talked more in men’s element! If he had little contact with his father, he goes to training or in groups where the teacher is male.

Read to him and with him. Children become readers on the lap of their parents. The child needs to see that you also read. Tell him about what you read. About their favorite books and characters. Explain to him why it is so important to read books. And read together and then Continue reading

What to do when your child lies

If it’s not quite a child who is not very difference between truth and own fiction, we should seriously enough to treat the manifestations of lies and figure out its cause. Usually, the main reason for this behavior is the elementary fear of imminent punishment, the desire to attract attention to themselves or the fear not to live up to parental expectations.

This is of course all right, but the most unpleasant and proven way – blowout. They need to bring on the ship (if you swim) and the road (if the road).

Think maybe you are bringing to your child is a very excessive demands, who, because of their age or development, simply can not meet. A fear of losing in this regard, your affection causes him to lie, exaggerating his achievements and “forgetting” about those offenses that have been committed.

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Why lie to us?

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