“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.
My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.
Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading
Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.
Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?
In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading
Teach your son to put into words what he feels. The kid can scream in frustration, to hide from embarrassment, biting excitement and crying from fear. Explain to him that it is emotions that tell the body how to behave. Show him other people who feel the same, but Express their emotions differently. Talk with your child about your own emotions. When he one day will grow, you will know the difference between rage and embarrassment, disappointment and grief, and learn to cope with their emotions and Express them intelligently, without shame and without guilt.
Papa will teach him the most important things. If you let dad be immersed in the process of raising a child from the very beginning, ever the son formed the correct opinion: his dad knows EVERYTHING. You will always be loved by his mother, but daddy for boy is a special man who knows the answers to all the questions.Make it so that the boy talked more in men’s element! If he had little contact with his father, he goes to training or in groups where the teacher is male.
Read to him and with him. Children become readers on the lap of their parents. The child needs to see that you also read. Tell him about what you read. About their favorite books and characters. Explain to him why it is so important to read books. And read together and then Continue reading