“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.
My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.
Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading
Discussion of games, toys, techniques, devoted several posts, even attached. But there is no discussion of computer games.
The son of a few months playing at the computer. Initially, the games were held my rigid censorship, then it was an omission, when it played in everything, himself, now, again, censorship is installed.
I thought, and this was confirmed by later observations, some games do more good than harm, of course, on the precondition that the computer is not a substitute for everyday leisure, festivals, games with their parents.
In my opinion, a computer game is a wonderful addition to our life (at home) when the child has the urge to act . but there is no opportunity to repeat the activity of the parent (e.g., mother sews on the sewing machine). The parent has no time clock to take the child with interesting games and tasks that call for perseverance, and interesting, for self-employment to the child of early age – very few (I almost never find them).
I tried to make a rough selection criteria games.
1. The complete absence of “nervousness” – all sorts of shouts, screams, the inadequate response of the characters Continue reading
The main secret of obedience
The ratio of children to parents is a mirror reflection of the attitude of parents to God. To change children, it is necessary to God to change parents-NML. Ask others more than yourself, much easier and easier.
Modern parent the world is filled with murmuring and grumbling:
— What naughty children, it’s amazing! Said, “Go to the store,” not went. “Take the bed,” not removed. “Wash the dishes”, — ‘t lift a finger. My strength is gone, in the coffin will drive.
Dear parents! Remember that God instructed to perform you daily, think about your Rodi research responsibilities. And if you understand that you do not perform, then looking truth in the eye, will reveal a simple truth: your children come to you. Children are rebelling because you are rebelling against those who put God above you: against powers, against the rulers at work, against the pastors of the Church. Children are disobedient to you, because you are disobedient to God. Children become indifferent to you because you have become indifferent to God. Children do not see you as a spiritual authority, because God has ceased to be your Patron. Continue reading