Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.
Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?
In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading
Not a simple question. Even adults sometimes don’t hear the first time.But, maybe these adults have grown from children who have not learned to hear the first time? Try to teach this child still stands.
The algorithm is as follows:
It happens that the child is absorbed in play or work and really can’t hear. By the way, I when writing a text or develop a training program that is so focused on process that is totally off from reality. So I at this point have heard, you either have very very loudly to call, or to touch. The second option is nicer. Don’t like loud noises. So himself in a similar situation too, I put my hand on his shoulder, drawing attention to yourself, even a little to himself to deploy. And just making sure that I managed to be in the spotlight, beginning to speak.
Have you ever talked with a young child who really wants to tell you something important? Which is already drowning in her own words, to be able to tell you whatever is there. The child in this case is usually even fixes the adult head with both hands to hold Continue reading
“Our son/daughter is lying! What do we do?” is a frequent complaint of parents in the office of a child psychologist. Parents wonder why their child is lying, because in their family, this behavior is not practiced. Others simply burn with shame for their child – lie their baby becomes public property, have already learned teachers or educators. There are among parents and those who are completely deluded by their child’s behavior. They admit that they don’t know what to believe and what not.
But what would have been the reaction of parents to lie to children, the ratio is always unambiguously negative. And the question of what to do and how to wean the child to lie, to tell lies and mislead others in, is very relevant.
A psychologist come when all known methods have been tried. A request or an order “Stop lying!” the child was ignored, physical punishment does not have the desired effect, and the threats were not heeded. To understand what to do in situations when your child is cheating, let’s see, why and why he does it.
Why do children lie?
Children lying is a very common phenomenon, but in each case it’s always a unique story. However, in most cases, a lie is a consequence of the child’s problem, not the problem itself. Therefore, to defeat the lies, we must find Continue reading