“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.
My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.
Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading
Your newborn baby is crying – you pick him up. He is hungry – you feed him. He has a wet diaper – you change. You will certainly meet his every need. To care for the baby and so very difficult, and of course, nurture your baby too early, right? But soon the child becomes wiser, and his needs are transformed into desires, and you understand that it would not hurt to set some boundaries.
How many times per day you patiently pick up from the floor and thrown a pacifier, a toy or an overturned bowl of porridge?
We know what you’re thinking: 1 or 2 years ’ s too early to punish the child. That kind of attitude is a stumbling block. Because education – this is not the only punishment. This training and instruction, which can and should start from an early age.
Limitations – an important part of your parental duty. You help the child understand what is good and what is bad, follow the rules and deal with disappointments. Of course, we all know that a child who is “bad behavior”, do not do this on purpose. When the child breaks your points, he’s only doing what instinct tells him ” explores the outside world. Continue reading
Meanie-beef, pickles, lying on the floor, no one eats. This teaser, even some 20-40-60 years ago, firmly attached to each child, which is “clamped” toy, the solution of homework or a delicious sandwich. “Are you greedy?” – contemptuous curve and we put in these words all the hostility, which was capable of our little soul. No wonder that today, seeing the greed of their children, we immediately inwardly flinch: what to do? how to wean the child to be greedy? how to teach your child to share? And still do not realize that waving his hand to the greed of a child, we deprive it of the normal base for future development and formation.
• Why children are greedy? What is the nature of the excessive greed of a child?
• Why is it important to teach the child not to be greedy, to be able to share with other toys, food, items?
• What to do if there is greed in the child? How to teach your child to share?
We grew up in a society where greed is considered a bad trait. To share with others, even the last, to give the last shirt are values that are deeply sitting in the us at the mental level. And although we all grew up, and each became a separate adult, who earns money and spends exclusively in their favor, seeing greed, especially naked, how does it happen in young Continue reading