Many kids are afraid of something, someone… How do these constant fears that are the basis for many life.
“… Come grey little wolf and bite at the flank,” the mother sings a lullaby, and then is surprised when he hears from a child :”I’m scared!”. Together, let us understand, what are the causes of fear from our children and how to deal with them.
In the first place . children learn fears from us, parents. If mom is afraid of dogs, there’s a very high chance that the child will be afraid of them. The same applies to fear of thunderstorm and lots more. The children of anxious mothers, ready all around to see the potential danger for your kid grow up to be ultra-cautious and fearful. And all because at every step mum warns: “Caution! Machine! Attention! Dog! Caution. “And the child becomes accustomed to living in anxiety, subconsciously, all the time expecting some danger.
Secondly . children’s fears and generates excessive parental care. The child growing in greenhouse conditions, it’s very difficult to adjust to life without “protective suit”, and he is everywhere begin to haunt danger, and on this basis, there are fears. Continue reading
L. Ron Hubbard
(source “Miracles for Breakfast” Ruth Minshull, p. 10)
What are the fears of the child. Where do they come from? How do we, parents, when different stages of a child’s life the nature of children’s fears are different. This is due to the child transitions to a higher level in its development. And, anyway, there is quite a capable system enabling the parent to be the surest method to respond to changes in the child’s behavior. This system is based primarily on typical age-related changes in children.
I want first of all to say about fear of children before, so they can stay simply ALONE WITH THEIR EXPERIENCES. This is the greatest and hardest burden for the baby. and for a teenager. A parent can learn about it, it started to communicate with the child about it. But all the drama is that it puts adults in a deadlock. Why? Because we mistakenly believe our role is to protect the child by simple exclusion fear of his life. However, does it help? Here is one story – a conversation Katie (she’s four years old) and her mom in the dressing room dance Studio:
Kate: Mom, let’s get going. There in the corner, you may receive a bogeyman.
(girl pointing finger in a far dark corner of the room)
Mom: Well, what’s the bogeyman! Barmalei does not happen. He only lives in a fairy tale.
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