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Unconditional love?

i“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.

My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.

Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading

Computer games for the little ones.

 

Discussion of games, toys, techniques, devoted several posts, even attached. But there is no discussion of computer games.

The son of a few months playing at the computer. Initially, the games were held my rigid censorship, then it was an omission, when it played in everything, himself, now, again, censorship is installed.

I thought, and this was confirmed by later observations, some games do more good than harm, of course, on the precondition that the computer is not a substitute for everyday leisure, festivals, games with their parents.

In my opinion, a computer game is a wonderful addition to our life (at home) when the child has the urge to act . but there is no opportunity to repeat the activity of the parent (e.g., mother sews on the sewing machine). The parent has no time clock to take the child with interesting games and tasks that call for perseverance, and interesting, for self-employment to the child of early age – very few (I almost never find them).

I tried to make a rough selection criteria games.

1. The complete absence of “nervousness” – all sorts of shouts, screams, the inadequate response of the characters Continue reading

Formation and development

The content of the ARTICLE should answer the following questions:

Self-consciousness. The formation and development of self-consciousness

The first “I” uttered by a child in 2-3 years, testifies that in his mind formed self-consciousness. He began to perceive myself as a kind, yet vague in his mind the creature.

A creature that lives his life — their desires, needs and which IS NOT the same thing THAT surrounds him — it — he became the SUBJECT of relations with people and things around him.

What happens next with this “I” — the self-consciousness of personality, except for the natural crystallization, expansion, complexity, as a consequence of it, the child, the rapid development?

Self-consciousness — I or We?

Look what’s going on in the socialization process (humanization) of the child and, further, already an adult.

The society, in the face of parents, caregivers, peers and so on — all those with whom the child faces, begins not only to make the child Continue reading

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