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Unconditional love?

i“Blizzard” is about unconditional love, as if, once again coming into fashion, depriving the rest of particularly sensitive and sverkhsvetovykh moms.

My idea is not original, but not universally. It is that unconditional love, most likely, does not exist. If a person is able to love unconditionally, then it is either Holy (without irony!), or just prone to self-deception. In the first case I would like this person to meet and become his apprentice. True! I really want to achieve the degree of enlightenment, when you know how to love. But such people I have not seen. I suspect that they do not. But from time to time meet somebody declares the importance of such love and denounces all, it is capable of.Oddly enough, most often the sounding nonsense broadcast psychologists or educators, or – especially – teachers-psychologists. And suffer from it, most often they are the same. And their children.

Why suffer? Because, trying to hide herself from unwanted feelings (type of hatred for the child), the mother becomes tense, unnatural and disturbing. The child feels unmistakably that something was wrong, but because feelings are not named and not defined by the mother, the child cannot understand what is happening, but feels anxiety. His own anger and rage regarding unsatisfactory relationship with her mother nowhere to place because the mother is unable to containerwith them. Guilt (autoaggressive), Continue reading

OUR FAVORITE KIDS

 

Spoiled brat – spoiled by indulgence, sissy. And pampering is relevant to anyone with unwanted attention, pandering to all the desires and whims. That usually mean by spoiled? Put “spoiled” often imply a lack of manners. Meanwhile, in the interpretations, there is no word about “bad manners”. Indeed, emotional instability, whims, unwillingness to listen and hear parents, lack of autonomy, self-centeredness, inability to build relationships with other children – this is not a complete list of “symptoms” that can be called spoiled. If you look at this phenomenon broadly, we can say that spoiled children are children who have not set boundaries are. Such a child is difficult to fit into the game peers, safely pass showcase with toys or heed the words of the parents – the child has no relevant skills.

Thus, placed in one row concepts: the spoiling, pampering and rude. Accordingly, if given to the child too much attention, then definitely he will be spoiled. When building such a chain there is a substitution of concepts. What do you mean “unwanted attention”?

In his desire not to spoil the child, parents can show the wonders of ingenuity. For example, if the child is wet, and to roll over or crawl yet maybe some parents can push the baby in a dry place, and take him in her arms with this approach, Continue reading

Prevention of addictions in children

 

It is no secret that in the life of the younger generation there is the temptation to drink or smoke. And this shouldn’t surprise – a considerable income from sales of liquor and tobacco products nowadays bear children. The reasons for such action can be many:

– the desire to “appear” in front of their peers;

– unwillingness to be the black sheep in the eyes of peers;

– imitation of their elders.

And that’s not all.

How so?

In the lives of youth nicotine and alcohol is so deeply ingrained that already to try, no need to find yourself a bad company. Moreover, these addictions may be present in the lives of perfectly normal children from affluent families. The question is: what motivates them to do this?

And after all, it would seem that all parents (even the most irresponsible) conduct lectures to the child about the dangers of Smoking and alcohol consumption. However, their children do not argue and agree with what was said. However, when in the noisy company, at a raging party night or just on the bench, they were asked to try the “more experienced” buddies, words of parents go somewhere in the background.

It remains to ask ourselves about whether were prevention of bad habits to your child. Talk more about that.

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