Is it Possible to educate parents?
A lot has been said and written about parental love. The best kind of love is recognized as unconditional love for your child. This is an example of God’s love on Earth. Very often use this metaphor: God’s love for the world, unconditional love of the father and mother to child. Those who find it difficult to comprehend the concept of “love of God”, it is possible to imagine a vast ocean, which washes the shore always, whatever the weather, time of day and time of year. Similarly unconditional love is always present in the heart of mothers and fathers. The question is, can I, as a parent, to give this love?
Unconditional love is love without conditions – is an art. Everyone knows that any art would not exist without the necessary knowledge, skills and acquired skills, effort and frequent workouts. One day, deciding to become parents, we allow unconditional love to conquer our nature. The ability to love unconditionally, like nothing else in this world, needs careful conservation and sustained development. The source of parental love is the soul and the inherent impulses of emotions and feelings. As classic said: “the Soul is obliged to work hard all day and night, day and night.” It’s true: to love means to be willing to exhausting domestic labour.
Any education is hard work. In this article I want to invite readers to thinking: is it possible to educate parents? If this issue will cause confusion, then the next question will tell the same thing, but using a different angle of view: do we need to help parents develop and grow to give love unconditionally?
In foreign pedagogical literature the question of the education of the parents quite often and means becoming on the path of parenthood, every adult is included in an ongoing process of self-development and self-improvement. This process cannot be forced upon someone or something, it’s based on a conscious desire to improve the person. Parenthood is a new framework, new conditions for growth of self and the development of the soul. Therefore, become necessary studies in the field of pedagogical theories. One of the important criteria of education is the child’s behavior. The behavior is the visible indicator of what is happening in the family with children. If the child’s behavior is alarming adults, it is natural that parents make the effort to change the behavior, change the child or to influence the formation of character. Among professionals-psychologists has established a strong belief that if parents aims to change the child’s behavior, the first step is to change the behavior of those adults who are most influential in a child’s life. Bijou, S. W. and B. L. Hopkins pay attention in his writings to this issue is education of the parents, change their behavior in families where there are small children.
The birth of a baby is always visible and significant event, which demands changes in lifestyle, and sometimes, very many people. Likewise, we must revise their own attitudes about life, development, growth and priorities of the parents, the grandparents. A meeting of several generations in the family can complicate this task, because of the modern life, the canons and statutes are changing very, very quickly. To keep up with the times is one of the most difficult tasks of young parents. Therefore, the education of the parent is always a joint action of all members of the family in which a child is born.
What it means to be a parent in today’s world?
The society has its own definition of “parenthood”, which is based on the idea of basic needs toddler, child, teen parents, health care, the welfare of the younger generation. In addition to the generally accepted concept of parenthood there is the tailor-educator psychological paradigm, which does not contradict the General, but the emphasis is shifting from needs to the relationship. The most important from the point of view of child psychology is the ability of parents to build their relationships with the child and other people . Parents are the first example of a relationship that included the baby. The quality and intensity of this relationship depends very much for the new man. Therefore, along with the genetic code, the family atmosphere has an exceptional influence on the further destiny of man. If you agree with the term “parenting the parents”, we spend enough time analyzing your relationship with your child and loved ones. There is a big gap and ignorance because there is in the school textbooks of the topics about relationships, chapters with examples of building a successful family relations. This science is learned by every own. Psychotherapy is a service whose purpose is to assist in the investigation of samples of their own behavior and relationships. Seek the help of psychotherapists and can avoid fatal mistakes in building parent-child and parent-child relationship.
In parenthood also incorporated the social aspect. The education of the parents is to be included in family ties, to be active in community and family to be part of the genus, which are the roots and impulses of life.
All the above is included in the concept of “educate parents”. As it happens in real life? In developed societies, the system of education already works automatically and does not require much effort. This is manifested through the work of the psychological centers, clubs for parents, social services, etc. the education of the parents is providing them with the necessary techniques and methods of influence on the child in the field of physical education, intellectual development and emotional balance.
In “parenting the parents” should include training age peculiarities of children’s development and accordingly build their relationship with the child. According to my personal observations, often parents of 2-year-old children expect their adolescent understanding of the requests and obedience. Remember that the misunderstanding of the age limits of children is a source of conflict in the family, blocking the flow of love between adults and children.
Undoubtedly, in most of today’s parents have a strong sense of love for the child. But this is not enough. Give yourself the answer to the question: whether the child feels the power of parental love for him? As you show your unconditional acceptance? Do you need help?
Child psychologists of different schools came to the conclusion that the child always asks parents the same question. “Do you love me?” Because small children do not have the maturity to Express their feelings, they are asking this question not with words, but by their behavior. Get the answer to this question is important to them. If your relationship many good deeds of unconditional acceptance, the children will not doubt that they are loved. If the child often behaves in an aggressive and annoying parents by their behavior (especially in public), then check your feelings to the child: there are no reservations and conventions in the expression of your love for son or daughter? The disobedience of a child is a signal to adults that he has ceased to remain safe and begins to worry: I love? Am I your parents? Parental reaction to the child’s behavior, conscious or unconscious, is the answer to the main question: do you love me? For the child the parents ‘ actions are the main indicators of their love. It’s the truth in understanding the child. It is limited to understand more about love to him. Every child is judging about love only from the height of its children need to be loved always.
The aim of this article was to convey to young and not so young parents the idea you need to explore your own reactions to children’s behavior and to recognize personal ability or inability to Express and show feelings of love for children.
These points are key in the understanding of the term “parenting the parents”.
And the educator-who will? you ask. A wise parent will easily agree with euchites and educators”.
Success to us in the exciting journey called Parenthood!