If You have a growing SON
Teach your son to put into words what he feels. The kid can scream in frustration, to hide from embarrassment, biting excitement and crying from fear. Explain to him that it is emotions that tell the body how to behave. Show him other people who feel the same, but Express their emotions differently. Talk with your child about your own emotions. When he one day will grow, you will know the difference between rage and embarrassment, disappointment and grief, and learn to cope with their emotions and Express them intelligently, without shame and without guilt.
Papa will teach him the most important things. If you let dad be immersed in the process of raising a child from the very beginning, ever the son formed the correct opinion: his dad knows EVERYTHING. You will always be loved by his mother, but daddy for boy is a special man who knows the answers to all the questions.Make it so that the boy talked more in men’s element! If he had little contact with his father, he goes to training or in groups where the teacher is male.
Read to him and with him. Children become readers on the lap of their parents. The child needs to see that you also read. Tell him about what you read. About their favorite books and characters. Explain to him why it is so important to read books. And read together and then discuss what you read, think out, invent, draw your favorite fairy tales – teach your child to be an active reader.
Make sure that before him there are examples of good people – smart, brave, strong, talented, and honest. Tell him about the great writers, travelers, explorers, scientists, artists, astronauts, the photographers, the artists, etc. About how they lived, and what it cost them to achieve success. Not only on men but also on women. And that inner beauty is often more important than external.
Be an example of such a person. Every day in order to prove to his little son that you are wise, loyal and honest. You are his perfect woman, the rest of the sample.
Teach your son some manners: say thank you and please to shake hands with women, to offer help, to give way, etc. It will make the world around you a little better.
Give him something to believe. Your boy will feel fear or anxiety, pain or grief or just to need you when you are not near. Give him something that he can call when he feels lonely, so he knew that he would never be alone. Never.
Teach him that sometimes you have to be very gentle to small children, animals, colours and feelings of others.
Give him a chance to ruin a lot of things that he’ll just ruin. If you will be upset every time your boy come home in dirty and ragged clothes – you join a losing battle. Do not waste energy on anger to the inevitable – the boys learn about the world, climbing trees and fences, jumping in puddles, spilling and falling. Is the order of things.
Let him feel important. Get carried away with his interests – learn all the intricacies of football and learn the names of the players of your favorite team, and best team, learn all the songs of your favorite band or the names of the different engines, understand the difference between Gryffindor and Slytherin, or learn to draw Panda… Be an active participant in his life, not a bystander.
Show genuine care for him. Step out together into the street. Turn off the TV, unplug the video games, put the phone on charge and put away the camera. Just go outside and follow your baby, look at him, explore his reaction, ask questions. It’s like magic, try it.
Let him lose. However desirable, your child will not be able to be a winner always. You tell him: “You’re a winner, because he wants”, but he never thinks and feels disappointed. Which is good, because sometimes life throws these curves, from which we are struggling to protect our children. But this practice is useful to him later, when he loses again (and again and again and again and again. ). Teach him that sometimes he wins and sometimes loses. But this does not mean that we should give up.
Give him the opportunity to help others. There is a big difference between what to give the opportunity to help and get help. To give the chance to it to light the flame in the heart which will one day Shine like a bonfire will light up the whole world. Be an example yourself – help each other and help others.
Explain to him that to achieve excellence practice helps. This applies not only to sports or music, but of everything in life. Cultivate good habits that will help already a grown man with ease to cope with everything in life.
Answer him when he asks, “Why?”. Answer him or look for the answer together. Show him where to find the answer (ask dad, grandma, grandpa, encyclopedias, or the Internet). Ask him another question, he began to think. If ever, it will be too embarassed to ask you about something – he will know where to look for the answer.
Give him something to release the energy of the drums, punching bag, open space, water or dog. Give him something, so he could rage and “go crazy” — or he will use something of yours, then very sorry.
Take it with you everywhere: to work, to meet friends, to travel. Every new place opens his heart, makes you think and leaves memories.
Kiss and hug him! Any mother of sons will tell you that little boys are very loving and gentle. They can be harsh, wild and destructive force in all day, but there are times when they are very kind, gentle and sensitive. So kiss and hug your child when he was 2 months or 16 years, and especially when he is naughty and naughty, because their whims, he shows how he lacks love and understanding. Don’t be afraid to grow out of sissy – boys are very much in need of love! And make sure he knows that mom can kiss his son, no matter how big it is and where they are.
Be his HOME. When a baby learns to walk, he walks away from you for a few steps and then returned. Then a little farther, and runs to you again… When will he learn to paint, he will be waiting for your proud smile. When you learn to read, it will be 20 times to read the same book aloud, because the mother will be his enthusiasm to listen and 20 and 50 times. When he plays football – he’ll be looking for your face on the podium. When he gets sick, he will call you. When he does something spoiled, he will call you. Even when they become an adult and strong, he can cry on your shoulder, not being ashamed of his feelings. Even when he really grows up and his life will be a new woman and a new home, you’ll still be his mother. Something constant and unchanging as the sun. The most important thing that should know your son is that he is always in your heart, and all the rest, as they say, will follow.