Does the child Have to help strangers?
“The victims he chose from among the children who are alone walking on the street or were in the wilderness. The attacker approached him, turning under the pretext – to the streets, the location of which he allegedly did not know.”
In another case, the lost boy could not learn how to get him to the bus stop, as he met on the way the students just ran away from him without explanation.
This information from news feeds shows us one of the issues of the day: “does the child Have to help strangers?”. It is my opinion.
The child SHOULD NOT help strangers. BUT it CAN be done most carefully and tentatively ensuring their OWN SECURITY.
What might it look like in practice? In the first case, the man asks the child to show the way to the street of Lenin, and almost every city has such a street. The child, for example, knows how to this street pass.
But his first reaction should be as follows: assessment of the situation, retreat to a safe distance (2 meters), ending the conversation and leaving in a safe place. We talked about this in the article, the Conversation of a child with a stranger: 4 steps to end the conversation.
Moving away to a sufficient distance (4-5 meters), the child MAY help a stranger, waving his hand in the right direction and shouted: “Go along this street to the traffic light and then turn right”. You can also be advised to ask for directions from the kiosk saleswoman or people at the bus stop.
Having said this, the child must continue its movement from a stranger, until you can be sure of its full security. After that, you need to inform your parents or custodian of child to adults (teachers, educators) about the incident.
I’ll mention again that it can help, but should not. Even if he just silently leave, it must be subsequently noted by parents as the right thing to do. The adult should seek help from an adult. His appeal for help to the child must look strange and suspicious.
So parents, I think, have an obligation to explain to the child all these settings and check, as he had learned them.
In the second case, the students turned to their peers. Guys were not talking to him and ran away. Basically, they did everything right from the point of view of ensuring its own security. But in this case they could help a child who has lost himself to them. They had only to specify the direction or advise to contact adults.
Important! Why don’t they spend it to the bus stop? There is also an option, but I wouldn’t recommend it. Maybe this boy was lost, and maybe trying to hold on the desired route any careless children, and he knows where this stop, halfway to which are his adult accomplices.
The proposed scenario of development of events seems incredible? I think it’s quite possible. To clarify this, I think, is not necessary.
What to do if the student seeks the help of a very little child? Asks, for example, to get the ball, activsist in the basement; or hurries to help his sister, to which landed bullies.
What might be the danger here? For example, a grown man asked his niece to call “that girl over there” to play in the yard next door, promising for this chocolate. The girl, unaware of malice, would be a long time to persuade his friend to go with her, and maybe it will succeed. Then good uncle, giving both girls the chocolate bars will start to play with them. What is it going to end? They may leave “the circus”, and little niece, she unwittingly becomes an accomplice to the kidnapping.
What can you do? Following the scheme proposed above, you must first ensure its own security, and then to understand how (and whether) to help the baby. To the basement to go, of course, impossible. Running to fight with the bullies too unreasonable. The best option is to inform parents or custodian of child to adults (teachers, educators) about the incident and to act according to their instructions.
In this case, we and the baby are in trouble will not leave (we still don’t know if this is a worry and the danger is not to be.
The following case – grandmother asks the child to move her across the street. What can be dangerous a sweet old lady? In one case, not very healthy elderly woman tried to lead from the street kids for their mentally ill son. Not worth it, I think you should check, this kind grandma or not. It is safest not to approach her, and ask (carefully) to the nearest adult to help her grandmother.
Is it too cruel to refuse to help people? I think that the realities of life force us to convince the kids first to stake their own safety, so to help it is best to request assistance from familiar adults.
In the end – one of the most difficult cases. Someone knocks on the door and asks the child to open it and give a call to the doctor, because the next person dies. Even in this case, to open the door and help thus risky. The child can learn through the door of a room on which to call, call a physician and be sure to call back to the parents, informing them about the incident. If you ask sedatives or other drugs, you can ask the person to come out of the door, and a tablet to cast to the street through the window. If the patient is present, the child will do whatever it takes to save lives. Need to advise a stranger to knock and in other apartments, because there may be adults who can provide further assistance.
1. The child is not required and should not to help strangers, whoever they were: adult male or female, grandfather, grandmother, children of different ages.
2. In the first place the child must provide their own safety as much as he does it in case of attempt of a stranger to speak to him.
3. Once in complete safety (going to parents, teachers or stepping away from the stranger for a few meters and making sure there is no prosecution), the child may help the stranger, saying about the direction of the required movement or advised to seek help from an adult.
4. If a child feels threatened, he may, without giving reasons to leave quickly asking help from a stranger.
5. The best for the child a way to help other people is to talk about the situation to parents, teachers, caregivers or other familiar adults.
Train your children, do not spare time for it, and the result will be a must!